“This is a trustworthy saying: “If someone aspires to be an elder,[a] he desires an honorable position.” 2 So an elder must be a man whose life is above reproach. He must be faithful to his wife.[b] He must exercise self-control, live wisely, and have a good reputation. He must enjoy having guests in his home, and he must be able to teach. 3 He must not be a heavy drinker[c] or be violent. He must be gentle, not quarrelsome, and not love money. 4 He must manage his own family well, having children who respect and obey him. 5 For if a man cannot manage his own household, how can he take care of God’s church?” (1 Timothy 3:1-5, NLT)
This passage is directed towards those who desire to be leaders in The Church but I want to direct towards fathers. I don’t believe this list should apply to just those who desire to be leaders, it’s good for anyone.
Father’s, the responsibility that lies on your shoulders can sometimes be overwhelming. Anyone who looks at this passage can honestly say, “That’s quite a list to live up to.” In some ways, it’s a very easy list of requirements and some ways it is not. Typically, men live in a performance based world. It’s just built within us. If we play a game, we play to win. If we’re involved in a sports event, we’re involved to win. In our jobs, we’re expected to perform, we have to meet deadlines, and we’re looking for the next promotion. Whether we are the primary provider for our family or not, men have the weight of feeling like they have the responsibility of being the provider for their family. All of this while still trying to be a dad, a husband, a friend, a leader, an example in our communities and church, and the list goes on.
Dad, I want you to step back today, and through all of the things you may feel like you failed in or didn’t do enough, I want you to pat yourself on the back. Why? For stepping up to the plate and taking on the role of a father. There’s a lot of dead-beat dads out there, there’s a lot of fatherless children in the world, and you deserve a round of applause for sticking with it. You deserve recognition for trying to maintain your daily responsibilities and still being the best dad and husband you can be.
Take a break from all of life’s demands today, don’t worry about all of your projects, and don’t worry about what you have to do at work on Monday. Don’t worry about the bills you have to pay, don’t worry about your deadlines and the promotion you’re trying to get. Today, be dad. All of the things that weigh on the mind of a father will quickly fade away and before you know it you’re little ones will be adults. They will be mothers and father’s themselves and hopefully we’ve trained them to be responsible, hardworking providers for their families. But most importantly, hopefully we’ve modeled to them what it means to be God chasing mothers and fathers.